“The fetus that is afraid of criticism is never born”
— Burundian Proverb.
African. My name is Wilson Kubwayo. I was born in 1994, the year the movie Cast Away was released. There were no other names that would fit me so that is why they named me Wilson. However, my last name is unique and different. It represents something bigger and bolder.
The name Kubwayo means “for God or because of God”. In other words, because of something greater than me, I exist. My last name is my essence and my first name serves my existence.
You are a history—the only reason people do not hear about you is because you choose not to share your story. Every individual is a history. Imagine how many people it took in order for you to come to life. I bet the process is longer and larger than your circle. Yet, your parents and grandparents are the only people whom with you are mostly familiar. Imagine how many odds you had to beat. You survived out of millions of sperm and fought your way to come to life. No offense, but why not allow yourself to become bold?
Welcome to my world. A world where you Climb the Walls of Greatness or die trying. Why are you afraid of what is already yours? Death is the only truth that’s alive, but destiny is the truth that will never die.
Chase your destiny!
Allow yourself to be the person you have always wanted to be. Allow yourself to finish that milestone and take the right path even when it means it’s the most difficult one. Francis Bacon said, “the lame man who keeps the right road outstrips the runner who takes a wrong one.”
So what if people think you lame. The question is, “am I on the right road?” Stop selling yourself short. Stop allowing people to disrespect you. Stop hiring the world to put you in the box like you have no avenue to answer your calling.
I mean it, the world has tried to make me feel offended when I say I want to be successful. People still look at me like I am crazy. As a result, I stopped worrying about those who try to define me in their own terms like they created me. The atman (the principle of life) is to allow yourself to be bold, period.
You have a dream to chase. You have a purpose, goal and vision to accomplish. So why not dare to be bold in your life? What’s stopping you? You have enough reasons to be the best you can be even when it means having the awareness of the gifts you already have available.
I am reminded of the Chinese proverb that reads, “I was angry at God because I did not have shoes, then I met a person with no feet.”
Most people say they want to live comfortable, but their comfortableness is uncomfortable. They whine and talk about their circumstances all the time without doing anything to change it.
I strongly believe you should allow yourself to be bold. Bold enough to face your fears. Bold and determined to work on your dream. Dare to love who you are despite the circumstances you are facing or have been through.
Keep in mind that you are going to continuously face challenges. Life is like trying to become a saint in the world of demons, which makes struggle not only an option, but a must in order to strengthen your passion.
For years I have tried to be someone else, and letting the world determine my levels of growth. I have tried to ignore who I am for a long time that I really couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. But then I became aware of this:
The Three Stages of Abilities that run our lives
- The Ability to learn
The ability to learn is your intellect. In whatever circumstances, it is useful to use your mind and reason why some actions are worth taking and why some are not. Know your “why.”
- Ability to perform
You have an ability to perform. That means, you have a drive and it is there so you can use it as you strive to complete that milestone. How much drive or appetite you have for something says a lot about how much you are passionate about that thing.
- Ability to feel emotions
Emotions are desires. They are good to have when you can control them. They are the worse characteristics people can have when they control you. Not all desires are good. In fact, some desires are really bad. However, this is the most important thing I want you to understand.
All you have to do to turn your life around is to change your desires. By changing your desires toward something else, you develop a different thinking, a different behavior, a different appetite. You befriend a different pattern in your life.
I remember sitting in the freshman section at the high school honor festival event as they awarded students who had done well. From that moment of going through a list of students who I did not know, I attracted a different desire. Read what happened and how I transformed my life.
It was not intellect that stimulated my mind to walk toward change. It was not my drive either. I geared my desires towards different goals. It was the “ability to feel emotions!”
This is why it is important to be in control of your emotions. I changed what I thought I desired. I shifted my desire from skipping classes to attending each and every class. I desired to behave negatively and I left that desire and welcomed a desire of behaving positively.
You can learn to desire a lot of things. This makes it easier when you truly want that thing in your life. Change your desires by replacing what you already love to do with new things or goals you would like to accomplish and everything else follows.
Use your ability to learn, to perform, and to feel emotions to create a better version of yourself.
“If there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do you no harm.”